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How to Reframe Your Problems

Photography by Joshua Rawson-Harris There are problems and then there are problems. The big ones are fierce, ugly, life-threatening, and gut-wrenching. The rest are created (and nurtured) in our heads. I know this personally. I have sat in the belly of the whale for years not working on skills I wanted to learn, books I wanted to write, damaging relationships that needed to end, ways to become financially independent, and dreams that yearned for attention. Ironically, I was successful at the really big problems that endangered my physical and mental survival and I was good at solving other people’s problems. Yet I found dozens of reasons not to accomplish many things I held dear: I was unworthy, I was too old, I was a fake, …

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Sitting with Pain

Photo by Haley Kean Most of us don’t know what to do with our own pain and rarely do me know how to support others in their pain and grief.  Pain is not to be ignored. It is not to be consoled with platitudes that somehow all will pass. Pain is pain. It only asks that you sit with it. There is a lot of pain out there in this nanosecond of earth’s history. Pandemics, starvations, genocides, climate change, conflicts, deaths, fear, inequality, oppression, and huge losses of income surround us. Uncertainty hangs in the air. My inbox and social media messages are full of it. My mind wants to fix it and I know I cannot.  The coffers of my limited income or my …

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